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More about massages provided by me you may read here: http://tantramovement.blogspot.nl/search/label/Massages

Some of the answers by Michal Marek Griks for the Exam Neo Tantric Fusion Massage 2014 by Marjanne Hurks in Rasayana Tantra Academy

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Tantra Massage it is massage with use of sexual energy by stimulating also intimate parts of the body. It's a massage, where we build up that energy and then the person is coming before the point of no return and then instead of releasing it like it would be the goal in erotic massage, we bringing it up or/and spreading it in whole body. So this is deep work with energy, what include the connection between sexuality, love and spirituality ( sex, heart and head ) more about Tantra Massage would follow in the other answers like for example experiencing relaxation while being very conscious ( not almost sleeping like in other types of massage )

And here is offer of my tantric massages:

…Most important is connection. Bringing myself and you in to the state of energetic merging. If we are able to achieve that, everything will flow how it suppose to.
Deep healing may appear. Healing of your past, your presence, your future, healing of your body, your heart and your spirit, healing of your femininity and masculinity, healing of all other aspect of your life.
Deep sexual pleasure may occur too. In tantra we welcome sexual energy. Yes, we worship this sacred and creative power by keeping it in, instead of releasing and loosing it. We bring that energy called ecstasy in to the higher levels of your being like to the heart, that you will become more loving, or to the throat that your communication will improve, or to the head that you will become more creative. Its all up to us and energy flow.

Thankful that you may experience ecstasy not only in your genitals but also in all other parts of your body. Your life may never be the same 😉

Massage what I offer may be called tantric, intuitive, flow massage. Depends from the needs, I'm mixing in it techniques like Sexual Tao massage, Kundalini massage, Tibetan Pulsing massage, Kashmiric massage, Kum Nye massage and others.

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Tantra Massage is a tool for :
1 Deepening love to each other and to ourselves
2 Increasing intimacy
3 Building up the energy
4 Deblocking, disarmouring
5 Balancing energy in each chakra
6 Spreading the energy
7 Foreplay and after play
8 Healing
9 Growing spiritually
10 Developing awareness
11 Opening to trust
12 Entering the bliss and ecstasy
13 Learning to feel the ecstasy without the energy release (ejaculation, peak orgasm)
14 To have fun without necessity for intercourse
15 Experiencing full body orgasms
16 Relaxing while being fully aware
17 Enhancing pleasure

Three keys to create energy and discharge are breath, movement and sound ( i would add awareness )

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PC pump means access of energy from sexual area by upward to higher chakras. We do it by tiding the PC muscle, usually together with breath in and tilting the pelvis in to the front and visualising energy flow upward the spine.

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Pc muscle that the muscle what are around anus and genitals (like 8).

Below is quoted what i wrote on the leaflet:

Training the PC muscle (sometimes called "muscles of love" or "muscles of sex" ) is one of the most simple but also most efficient and beneficial technique what people can get from tantra.
This list of the benefits from exercising the PC muscle is already long but it includes only most important 🙂

– Stronger pelvic muscles
– Increase the blood flow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms and healing process.
– Shutting access of sexual energy to higher parts of the body = spreading ecstasy
– Preventing urinary incontinence

for a man:
– Preventing impotence
– Stronger and longer erections
– More control over ejaculation
– More intense and pleasurable orgasms
– Ability to have multiple male orgasms
– Prevent prostate cancer

for a woman:
– Better, stronger and more frequent orgasms
– Control over intensity of the ecstasy feelings
– Awakening clitoris, G point, breast and other sexual areas
– Harmonising hormones
– Decreasing PMS and menopause symptoms
– Easier childbirth and healing after

When You next time go to toilet with breath in stop urinating. The muscles what you're using that's PC muscle. Squeeze them and relax them 20 times 3 times per day. Like with every practice build it slowly. Every day increase till 30, 40, 50…till you would be able to do it at least for 3 minutes. Keep on the practice. As You will notice training the PC muscle is not visible for others and doesn't take your attention so its perfect to do in all possible situations ( i'm doing it even when i'm writing this text 🙂

+ link to video where I explain about PC muscle on one of the iintroduction to tantra workshop: http://tantramovement.blogspot.nl/2014/01/tantra-movement-theory-leaflet.html

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What means for you:

A) Admissibility and openness

Means that you are in attitude to be open for new things, new experience in your life, that you're ready for that what would come. It maybe healing, ecstasy, loving energy, emotions, feelings… Of course to achieve admissibility person have to be ready and feeling save.

B) Relaxation: That you let yourself to be fully relaxed without falling to sleep. That you let your body to be heavy on the table, that you breath deeply,that you leave behind whole worries and stress of the common life, that you with trust surrender whatever will happen.

C) Being here and now it means following with full attention the hands. Observing with full awareness what is happening inside and outside of the body. Being conscious. Witnessing, observing the present moment with all your senses. And whenever you notice that you got out of that state , that you got cough by the thoughts you just without getting annoyed with yourself, you come back to observing the floating hands. Here and now

If you would like to know more don't hesitate to ask: mgriks@gmail.com

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Wat is Tantrische massage voor mij? Antwoorden van Michal Marek Griks

Meer over massages die ik verzorg kun je hier lezen:  http://tantramovement.blogspot.nl/search/label/Massages

Enkele van de antwoorden van Michal Marek Griks bij het examen Neo Tantric Fusion Massage 2014 door Marjanne Hurks in Rasayana Tantra Academy

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Tantra Massage is massage met gebruik van seksuele energie door ook intieme delen van het lichaam te stimuleren. Het is een massage waarbij we de energie opbouwen en dan komt de persoon bij het gevoel te gaan ejaculeren en in plaats van het te laten gebeuren, zoals het doel zou zijn bij erotische massage, brengen we de energie naar boven en/of spreiden het in het hele lichaam. Dus dit is diep werk met energie, inclusief de verbinding tussen seksualiteit, liefde en spiritualiteit (geslacht, hart en hoofd). Meer over Tantra Massage volgt in de andere antwoorden zoals bijvoorbeeld het ervaren van ontspanning terwijl je heel bewust bent (niet bijna in slaap zoals bij andere soorten massage)

En hier is wat mijn tantrische massages bieden:


…Het belangrijkste is verbinding. Mezelf en jou in de staat van in elkaar opgaan brengen. Als we in staat zijn dat te bereiken, zal alles stromen zoals het hoort.

Diepe genezing kan plaatsvinden. Genezing van je verleden, je heden, je toekomst, genezing van je lichaam, je hart en je geest, genezing van je vrouwelijkheid en mannelijkheid, genezing van alle andere aspecten van je leven.

Diep seksueel plezier kan ook opkomen. In tantra verwelkomen we seksuele energie. Ja, we aanbidden deze heilige en creatieve kracht door het binnen te houden, in plaats van het los te laten en kwijt te raken. We brengen die energie genaamd extase naar de hogere niveaus van ons wezen zoals het hart, zodat je liefdevoller wordt, of naar de keel zodat je communicatie zal verbeteren, of naar het hoofd zodat je creatiever zult worden. Het is allemaal aan ons en de energiestroom.

Dankbaar dat je extase niet alleen in je genitaliën kunt ervaren, maar ook in alle andere delen van je lichaam. je leven zal nooit meer hetzelfde zijn 😉

Massage die ik aanbied kan tantrisch, intuïtief of stroom massage genoemd worden. Het hangt af van de behoeften, ik mix er technieken in zoals Seksuele Tao massage, Kundalini massage, Tibetan Pulsing massage, Kashmirische massage, Kum Nye massage en andere.

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Tantra Massage is een instrument voor :

1 Het verdiepen van liefde voor elkaar en voor onszelf
2 Intimiteit verhogen
3 Opbouwen van de energie
4 Deblokkering, ontwapening
5 Energie in ieder chakra balanceren
6 De energie spreiden
7 Voorspel en naspel
8 Genezing
9 Spirituele groei
10 Bewustzijn ontwikkelen
11 Openen naar vertrouwen
12 Zaligheid en extase binnengaan
13 De extase leren voelen zonder energieverlies (ejaculatie, piekorgasme)
14 Plezier hebben zonder noodzaak van seksuele gemeenschap
15 Ervaren van orgasmen in het gehele lichaam
16 Ontspannen terwijl je volledig bewust bent
17 Plezier verhogen

Drie sleutels om energie en ontlading te creëren zijn ademhaling, beweging en geluid (ik zou bewustzijn toevoegen)

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Bekkenbodem pomp betekent toegang van energie uit het seksuele gebied opwaarts naar hogere chakra's. We doen het door de bekkenbodemspier aan te spannen, gewoonlijk tijdens de inademing en terwijl we het bekken naar voren kantelen en visualiseren dat de energiestroom naar boven gaat via de ruggengraat.

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Bekkenbodemspier is de spier rond anus en genitaliën (zoals 8).

Hieronder is geciteerd wat ik schreef op de flyer:

Training van de bekkenbodemspier (soms genaamd "muscles of love" of "muscles of sex" ) is één van de meest simpele maar ook meest efficiënte en heilzame technieken die mensen kunnen krijgen van tantra.
Deze lijst van voordelen van het oefenen met de bekkenbodemspier is al lang maar bevat alleen de meest belangrijke 🙂

– Sterkere bekkenspieren
– Toename van de bloedstroom naar het genitale gebied, en dus ondersteuning van seksuele opwinding mechanismen en genezingsproces.
– Toegang van seksuele energie naar hogere delen van het lichaam = extase verspreiden

– Urine incontinentie voorkomen

voor een man:
– Impotentie voorkomen
– Sterkere en langere erecties
– Meer controle over ejaculatie
– Intensere en plezierigere orgasmen
– Mogelijkheid om meerdere mannelijke orgasmen te krijgen
– Prostaatkanker voorkomen

voor een vrouw:
– Betere, sterkere en frequentere orgasmen
– Controle over de intensiteit van de extase gevoelens
– Clitoris ontwaken, G spot, borst en andere seksuele gebieden
– Hormonen harmoniseren
– PMS en menopauze symptomen doen afnemen
– Gemakkelijkere bevalling en genezing daarna

Wanneer je de volgende keer naar het toilet gaat, stop met urineren bij de inademing. De spieren die je gebruikt zijn de bekkenbodemspier. Knijp ze samen en ontspan ze 20 keer 3 keer per dag. Zoals bij iedere oefening, bouw het langzaam op. Doe het iedere dag langer tot 30, 40, 50… totdat je in staat zult zijn om het tenminste 3 minuten te doen. Blijf oefenen. Zoals je zult merken is het trainen van de bekkenbodemspier niet zichtbaar voor anderen en het eist niet je aandacht op, dus is het perfect om te doen in alle mogelijke situaties (ik doe het zelfs terwijl ik deze tekst schrijf :))

+ link naar de video waar ik uitleg over de bekkenbodemspier bij een introductie in tantra workshop: http://tantramovement.blogspot.nl/2014/01/tantra-movement-theory-leaflet.html

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Wat betekent voor jou:

A) Toelaatbaarheid en openheid

Het betekent dat je in een houding bent om open te staan voor nieuwe dingen, nieuwe ervaring in je leven, dat je klaar bent voor dat wat zal komen. Het kan genezing zijn, extase, liefdevolle energie, emoties, gevoelens… Om toelaatbaarheid te bereiken moet een persoon natuurlijk klaar zijn en zich veilig voelen.

B) Ontspanning: Dat je jezelf volledig ontspannen laat zijn zonder in slaap te vallen. Dat je je lichaam zwaar laat zijn op de tafel, dat je diep ademhaalt, dat je de zorgen en stress van het gewone leven achterlaat, dat je met vertrouwen overgeeft aan wat er ook zal gebeuren.

C) Hier en nu zijn betekent met volle aandacht de handen volgen. Observeren met volledig bewustzijn wat er binnen en buiten het lichaam gebeurt. Bewust zijn. Getuigen, observeren van het huidige moment met al je zintuigen. En wanneer je merkt dat je uit die toestand raakt, dat je in gedachten belandt, kom je gewoon zonder geërgerd te raken naar jezelf, terug naar het observeren van de handen. Hier en nu.

Als je meer zou willen weten, aarzel niet om te vragen: mgriks@gmail.com

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Liefde en Licht

More testimonies for School Of Tantra Movement 🙂 – this one I love especially because I could not experience myself but I'm very happy to read it 🙂

Dear Marek,

I am still thinking a lot about the time and experiences on Rainbow and I would like to share a few things with you…On Rainbow I have received a lot of great keys! One of them was the Tantra-key. I think all keys together are responsible for a beautiful development of myself. Maybe the most amazing thing, that happened, is the new relationship with my body. It’s really amazing how I can experience my body now… For example my next bleeding after Rainbow has come without pain. For more than 10 years I had have always huge pain, but this time…nothing…it feels like so much tensions and pressures have left my body….It’s very true, what you are always saying about Tantra and liberation… I can feel, that I become more aware and sensitive with my body and I feel more liberated… Also you have shown me exercises that I can practice when I feel down, exercises that reminds me how to get again into the mood of liberation…
Thank you so much!

Love love love


Three years teaching, one year School Of Tantra Movement – time for anniversary gift. It is a Vision

Our vision is:

Sharing love, being love, making love…

Sexuality as one of most close, most intimate expression of love…

Unfortunately no one thought us, this one of the most important thing in life for majority of us. We could be lucky if we got some good and not bad examples from our parents…

How it come that this big power, what is love, this tremendous energy what is within each of us, our sexual energy is not known, not used, suppressed, ashamed or/and used mostly in wrong, dirty way ?

How it come that our sacred body is brought in to the only role, to sell the products or to addict to sex through pornographic perversion ?

Lucky, We experience that in completely different way… Our sexuality is giving us power, is healing our wounds, is bringing us higher on all possible levels – physically, spiritually, materially…. It strengthens our love in to the deeper levels and is bringing us in to not known yet to us other dimensions.

Tantra is giving us tools to liberate ourselves, to increase intimacy in our life, to bring ecstasy and passion in to every good thing what we are busy with. Tantra is rising our consciousness together with the consciousness of the planet.

We feel is necessary to share with others this whole, never ending and constantly developing us experience.  For goodness of their lives, for surviving of their relationships, for healing the wounds of the past in individuals and in whole society. For bringing solutions for all types of crisis what humanity is facing nowadays.
There is strong reason that this, hold in the secrets for centuries wisdom now is revealed to all of us. Don’t miss the chance. Joint the movement. Create your own way or share the path with us !

What we are busy with ?

School Of Tantra Movement is a initiative to spread wisdom of tantra, love  and sexuality through workshops, courses, lectures, texts and other ways of energy…

What is our vision ?

-To bring the knowledge of tantra to wider parts of the society,

-To create the movement based on love, what would help in changing the world in to the better place…

-To build community around us where we would create more healthy and free society

How we going achieve that ?

-With you

… so we going to involve everyone who feel the same in to creative process of bringing those changes. ( time for you to make a move in to our direction ? )

-By continuing sharing our experiences in School Of Tantra Movement

-By printing and publishing more things what may in simple way help everyone use wisdom of tantra 

What are our further dreams ?
-Building the place where we may share tantra…
-Creating the communes (something like Osho, but not exactly)
-That everyone use tantra. That each person is able to benefit and use of the PC muscle and use of observing the breath. That such a things are learned in basic schools. That intimacy, love, tantra and sexuality is not more tabu but is consider as main thing in human education. That, We are able to fill up whole dam square with loving couples sitting in shiva shakti and everyone respect it as sacred love…
-That social, mental, environmental, economical crisis is solved with great help of tantra

How you can help?
-First: we would like to thank to all who are already participate in School Of Tantra Movement for supporting us. Every workshop what you are been is helping us to sustain our vision of life what is tantra. So keep on <3
-Second: think, feel, see how you can support our vision in any other way, share ideas, don’t hesitate to ask the questions… and just do it… bring the thoughts in to ideas, ideas in to action.Create Love on all possible levels.
-Let’s do it together. Together we are stronger. Together we can do much more. Together we win…

Love and light

Here you may download pdf version to print and share. https://archive.org/details/tantraschoolmovementpink_201405

This one you may give as birthday gift to the person who you love or/and care

They’re also available in organic shops, some of the spiritual and cultural centers…

The main vision of School Of Tantra Movement is spreading the love. It is most
important thing in our life and the biggest power in changing the world in to a better
place.For us sexuality is most close,most intimate and most beautiful expression of love.

This is what we are sharing on our workshops but also shortly on this leaflet:

Few advice to improve your life ( so, the life of the others as well )
Love yourself – this is the first step to love the others
Increase intimacy – not only in your bed but in your whole life
Prioritise your relationship – I believe love is most important for you too. Never forget about it.

PC muscle: Training the PC muscle, sometimes called “muscles of love” is one of the most simple but also most
efficient and beneficial technique, what people can get from tantra. There are many health, physical, mental and
sexual benefits of training that muscles.
When you next time go to the toilet, on every in breath stop urinating.  Recognise clearly what muscles are you using.
That’s PC muscle. When you know them, squeeze them and relax them 20 times, 3 times per day. Like with every
practise build it slowly. Every day increase till 30, 40, 50…till you would be able to do it at least for 3 minutes.
Keep on practise. As you will notice training the PC muscle is not visible for others and doesn’t take your attention,
so its perfect to do in all possible situations ( I’m doing it even, when I’m writing this text 🙂 I bet with everyone that
after one month training, you would be thankful for that information… and I didn’t loosed yet 🙂

Breathing: Observe your breath as often and as long as you can. It will calm you, detoxify you, energise you.
It will increase your concentration and health. It will bring you to the here and now. It may open you for other
dimensions not only in your love making but in your entire life.

Eat less meat,diary and more fruits, vegetables, organic, local, vegan, raw… and enjoy it with full awareness!

One gram of practice is worth more than 1000 of theory…
So use it, don’t loose it

We offer :
workshops for all,
for relationship,
massage courses,
lectures by us or/and other teachers,
private sessions and massages.

You can find out more here :

Do not hesitate to ask the questions:


Love and Light
Michal Marek Griks

One of the text what i shared on many of our workshops at Rainbow Gathering. What do You think about it ? I hope would provoke for discussion and confront some stereotyping thinking…

In the movie what I’m making, I’m asking people: „Is Rainbow political ?”, ” Is tantra political ?”. Of course it is. We would like all to change the world for a better place, we would like to save the planet, we all would love to give example to the world, that whole 2000 people can eat vegan food for whole month, that there peace, equality,freedom and love is possible. Many of us would bring that beautiful energy back home, many would spread that love to their friends, families, surroundings etc. That’s great ! That’s wonderful ! Fantastic. It will bring the change. But is it enough ?

Copying American life style by Chinese and Indian people is going so fast. Even if we, each of us, after Rainbow Gathering, would menage to commit 2 people for vegan diet, we still would not balance that change. This is small example of many. Next could be: If all Chinese and Indian people would get a car we would be already fucked. Its going fast in that direction.

If You would live in early 30ties and You would see the Nazis empire coming, with this knowledge what it brought would You not like to stop it in all possible way, on all levels what You could?

The worse that Nazi time’s is happening now in front of us. Millions of people are dying as consequence of climate change and not enough is done to stop it. We got freaky whether records in all parts of the world.

In Amsterdam we sadly joking, that summer that’s only this few sunny days and Amsterdam summer fashion collection that’s plastic rain jacket, with par of wellington boots. Still is very rare that You would hear about it in propaganda machine – TV ( idiot box ). One of the best thing what we can do o reduce climate change is to make our consumption smaller. The main massage in mainstream media is to ” buy more “. Second important reason of TV propaganda is to spread ignorance. Every day big portion of news what we can’t do nothing about it and we do nothing about it, make us immune for any need for action at all. So no wonder nothing is changing, – not enough.

The other problem is those who wish the change got divided : Peaceful, not peaceful. Wishing that in the times of TV propaganda circumstances, that meat or weapon industry would end just by soft, wishful thinking is a big dream. Wake up!

From the other hand radical actions what doesn’t have social support ( because they’re not peaceful enough ) also do not have enough big impact. It’s time to unite, to acknowledge all aspect of our struggle, for better world, to save the planet. As tantra is teaching us to recognise, acknowledge, respect and use all aspect of our life, we also should use anger from love in our struggle. Let’s free energy of Kali in our struggle to destroy all weapon and meat industry, let’s support loudly those actions. We live in disaster bigger than WW2. Time to wake up ! Time to unite! Time to act in all possible way in all levels ! Do something now! The Earth is dying and needs Your help. NOW!

…more You can find on some of our pages:
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Tantra-Movement/218745438268319?ref=hl (join the movement!) http://tantramovement.blogspot.nl/

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This series of articles are inspired by the workshops given by my first teachers of Tantra- Mihal and Edyta from Poland, who I met during the European Rainbow Gathering in Greece and who led me with care and love through a deep and transforming exploration of my sexual energy. You can read more about their workshops in Amsterdam on their website.

The first Tantra workshop led by Mihal and Edyta which I went to was called “Tantra dancing”. In the theoretical part Edyta told us about the different aspects or archetypes of female (sexual) energy. Female energy is worshiped, celebrated and respected in tantra. Going deeper into understanding female energy comes with the prerequisite of understanding that all of us, no matter of our gender or sexual preference have both female and male energy. The two energies may be in differing proportions, more or less evident, but nonetheless present in ourselves.

Lakshmi, Sarasvati, Mohini and Kali are all parts of us which we can learn to distinguish, develop and express.


Lakshmi is the Hindu Goddess of spiritual and material richness. She is the emobodiment of beauty and prosperity. Hinduists believe she is the keeper of peace at home: “Invite her and clean the floor for her”.

Sarasvati is the artist Goddess in Hinduism.


She is connected with arts, music and knowledge and is tought to be the companion of Brahma and so is his Shakti.

Mohini is less known yet very interesting. she is the childishly flirting Goddess of attraction.


Easy to be illustrated with the literary image of Lolita.


Kali is the most well-known of the Hindu Goddesses. She is best known for her destructive presence. She is madness, danger and anger. She is the strong warrior woman cutting men’s penises. She is often perceived as death itself and yet though of as a cleaning energy.

By recognizing the different aspects of female energy represented by the mentioned Goddesses we can consciously learn to use them. And while Goddesses just like women can be very different and contrasting, all aspects of female energy are Love in their essence.

In the following ritual we all got the opportunity to consciously play with the different aspects of our female energy. I, for example, felt that Mohini is the most dominant manifestation of my sexual energy and yet gained interesting observations on the influence of the other three goddesses on the way I move, communicate, touch and reflect on everything that is happening.

♥Maggie Nazer is a social entrepreneur, activist, blogger and current Middlebury college student.

Feeling inspired? Why not share?

Soon we will update new version and we will give to all our students that in paper together with the program of the course…

and here You can read old version with videos what was made when i started to teach:
PC muscle

Training the PC muscle (sometimes called “muscles of love” or “muscles of sex” ) is one of the most simple but also most efficient and beneficial technique what people can get from tantra.
This list of the benefits from exercising the PC muscle is already long but it includes only most important 🙂
  • Stronger pelvic muscles
  • Increase the blood flow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms and healing process.
  • Shutting sexual energy to higher parts of the body = spreading ecstasy
  • Preventing urinary incontinence
for a man:
  • Preventing impotence
  • Stronger and longer erections
  • More control over ejaculation
  • More intense and pleasurable orgasms
  • Ability to have multiple male orgasms
  • Prevent prostate cancer
for a woman:
  • Better, stronger and more frequent orgasms
  • Control over intensity of the ecstasy feelings
  • Awakening clitoris, G point, breast and other sexual areas
  • Harmonising hormones
  • Decreasing PMS and menopause symptoms
  • Easier childbirth and healing after
When You next time go to toilet stop urinating to recognize how you do it. The muscles what you’re using that’s PC muscles. After you recognized them, without urinating squeeze and relax them 20 times 3 times per day. Like with every practice build it slowly. Every day increase till 30, 40, 50…till you would be able to do it at least for 3 minutes. Keep on the practice. As You will notice training the PC muscle is not visible for others and doesn’t take your attention so its perfect to do in all possible situations ( i’m doing it even when I’m writing this text 🙂
Tips to keep any practice
1. If the practice is daily (breath, pc muscle etc.) put reminders in to Your life. Think about something what You do every day (like breakfast, brushing teeth, using the tram, etc ). Set up those moments as reminders so every time they will happen you will start your practice. This would help you to not forget the practice on the longer therm.
2. Convince yourself, your subconscious mind, (ego, your lower self or whatever you like to call it ). Imagine within you that your subconscious mind is like small child what is stuck in it’s habits. Whatever change you would like to implement in your life you will need to convince this child to do it with you. It’s not always easy. Our subconscious mind would like to stay secure doesn’t wanna to risk the change. It would find hundreds excuses to not to change at all. Showing benefits may help. Award yourself for every step you made. Your subconscious mind love to be awarded. This works much more efficient than punishment, discontentment etc. Make it as much playful as possible. You may think about some game. Always keep the dialogue with your subconscious mind. Only by explaining not by forcing implement change (practice) slowly or try it out for one day or week – there are many ways you have to choose one.
3. You could also ask Your higher self (your superconscious mind or guardian angel or whatever you would like call it ) to give you strength with keeping on the practice (change)
Meditation gives you silence you need to have to make dialogue between those three parts of you

One gram of practice is worth more than 1000 of theory… Here are the notes for basic introduction workshop what i’m teaching. I hope they would be helpful. Anyway best is to attend the workshop with many exercises between and possibility of asking questions.Workshops/lectures/meetings are: … check update at http://tantramovement.blogspot.nl/

1.What is tantra ?

Tantra is one of the oldest sciences in the world, there is a multitude of ways that it can be defined. Its probable that there are more ways to define tantra than there are people that are united through it. It is an ambitious task to try to explain or define Tantra. One must experience tantra with the freedom to define its meaning through one’s own experience. In my opinion, tantra connects our sexuality with our spirituality, our body with our soul, our heart with our mind, it balances our feminine and masculine energy, one utilises the sacred act of making love.To make love for a higher purpose, not only to fulfill one’s desire but used in a conscious way to raise one’s awareness. When we raise our awareness, we strengthen all acts performed in daily life. Raising our consciousness to a greater level improves our relationship with things of importance and to the sustenance of humanity and planet. Making our love sacred, more pleasurable and more fulfilling. Tantric love transforms the sexual act from a short act that ends with an explosion, feelings of dissatisfaction and the loss of the precious life giving ojas/energy, into an implosion of a long ecstatic and deeply spiritual experience that feeds us energy. Tantra sublimates intimacy from the bedroom to our daily life. It transforms the love that we feel within, to the love we give our lover, family … and the whole universe. Tantra is everything and much much more than I will teach you today.

2. Love is the greatest power of all.

Love is the greatest power of all and love has the power to overcome many problems that people face in the 21st Century, so its important to learn to love in every concievable way and the science of Tantra is available to all. Love is the most important experience in life for all of us. Unfortunately there lacks knowledge about the steps that one can take to amplify the love experience. The painful paradox is that while there are many other disciplines that one may learn while at school, this type of knowledge does not have a place in the  conventional education system. One is rather fortunate if they have experienced unconditional love from their parents. To fill this gap we wrote these words, we shall read them, and that’s why I teach in Tantra Movement School

3. Loss of semen means loosing energy

One of the basic things that we have to learn is to avoid ejaculation, during ejaculation a man loses essential energy and the only thing that he is capable of doing after this great loss is sinking into a state of deep sleep. If one loses so much essential energy there is a possibility of suffering numerous health problems, quick frustration, quick temper and a lack of energy just to name a few. Less than 10 minutes foreplay and less than 7-minute vaginal penetration will leave a woman extremely disappointed. A woman needs a greater time in length for foreplay to arouse her excitement enabling her to feel total relaxation and reach orgasm. When a man thinks only of his own desires it will surely discourage the woman from making love and may make her feel used, leading to frustration in the relationship.

4. Foreplay

Therefore, before we learn to slow down or even halt ejaculation, one should realise the importance of foreplay, it is the most important part of lovemaking, increasing the time of making love is what will give a women greater satisfaction. So let your lover be the guide when vaginal penetration should start. During foreplay the revelation that one’s whole body, with a mutual exchange of energy is able to experience ecstasy. Foreplay is a great time to get to know your own erogenous map. Mouth, breast, genitals are the common places of sexual pleasure, but we are all individuals, in each one of us are hidden great mysteries what we have to explore.

5 Intimacy not just in bed

Intimacy and love should not be confined to the bedroom, making love is not only vaginal penetration but can be expressed through kind words, hugging, the exchange of looks shared with one’s partner during every shared moment together. A very nice habit to learn is to cuddle every time you see each other. A second one: before falling asleep, cuddle each other in the spoon position, breathing together, synchronizing your energies. Giving and receiving love by doing things together such as dancing, practising partner yoga, Qi gong, cooking dinner together, reading to each other, taking a course together, activism etc. Yoga, Tao chi and Qi gong are complimentary for tantric practise because they educate one about the flow of energy. This ecstatic energy should spread into all areas of our lives.

6.Male and female energy

Very often our sexual life may improve if the woman took a proactive role during lovemaking. They are more than capable to lead lovemaking and it may make her more content. …and what man does not want to satisfy his beloved ? Unfortunately not everyone is able to reverse the role. For centuries the female sex is suppressed by the male sex. Patriarchy is a contributing factor of creating wars, climate change, hunger and many problems in the world. In a matriarchal society destruction does not happen but rather restoration to the natural order of things.Of course I’m generalising a bit here, we all have feminine and masculine energies, Yin and Yang, moon end sun etc. A balance of the two polarities is a deciding factor for our happiness. Unfortunately in the educational setting, dogma encourages men to exaggerate their masculinity and women to exaggerate their femininity, this idea is of course lopsided. Both polarities must be embraced and understood if we are to be whole again.Tantra is a positive step in the struggle for both men and women’s liberation, liberation can only lead towards a better society. Therefore, we must destroy certain stereotypes that have been imposed upon us and allow the man to be emotional and sensitive being, allow his feelings to be expressed rather than suppressed, and allow the woman to be in touch with her masculinity. Let us be ourselves. Let’s do it for ourselves.

7.Love Yourself

Loving ourselves is the foundation of real love, when we love ourselves we can truly love others. When we feel good about our self we will have the self esteem needed to act in love towards another being. To truly love ourselves may increase the chance of amplifying the love shared with our partners, family, animals, nature, whole planet and the universe. From birth, everyone expects something from us, whether it is to become someone of status or to achieve something of great material wealth. Girls are expected to be pretty and never grow old, they are also expected to be exemplary mothers and wives. At the same time boys and later men are judged less by their looks but what they own and how high they rank in society, the pressure is so high that most people will constantly feel undervalued. Thousands of billboards and advertisements use psychology subtley telling women how they should look, “Never fulfilled and unnatural ideals “. The majority of women feel insecure, as a result some become anorexic and some resort to cosmetic surgery. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way.

Question to woman: What are the reasons you want to experience love, is it for your external beauty which will one day fade away or do you want someone to love you for who you are in the deep recesses of your heart? Question to man: What are the reasons you want to experience love. Is it for the car you drive or the numerous material things that you have collected, that will one day become obselete. Or is it the position in society you have or do you want someone to love you for who you are in the deep recesses of your heart?

Exercises that one can do to build self love

To achieve this, stand in the mirror every morning (or as often as you can) and enjoy your unique beauty, stroke and caress every part of Yourselves. Watch and love every corner and part of Your body. Be thankful for their functions.
The fact that masturbation is immoral or not ethical is another myth that should be overthrown on the way to our liberation.
Self pleasuring ritual is not a sin (like making love as well 🙂 If you do not end up with losing the semen it is very good exercise not only for singles.You can learn how to work with energies, breath, self acceptance without interrupting by strong energy of Your beloved. Especialy for men masturbation is good way to learn how to hold back ejaculation.

8.Know Yourself

It is important to know the sexual anatomy of our body, there is more than one orgasmic point other than clitoris in the woman’s body, so there more types of orgasm to explore, to mix and to play with.

G point is the most known. Its in front of vagina more less 7 cm depth – depends from the woman. [ In mans the G point is achievable mainly through entering the anus or slightly by massaging the perineum between testicles and anus.] From it depth depend the position in which could be stimulated in the best way. In touch feels like a button,sponch or a walnut. In this point very often are stored a lot of painful memories that very often are released during the orgasm. That’s why when a person is experiencing it one of the first times, suddenly may get angry, scared, sad and she/he may begin to shout, cry etc. Don’t be discouraged by this. It is revealing healing process.

U point – just below the urinary hole, about 3 cm below the clitoris. Stimulated together with point G could give so much pleasure that can lead a woman to ejaculate.

M Point – from the sound of mmmmm… the woman would make this sound when is stimulated. At the bottom of vagina and sensitive mainly after at least one of orgasm.

There are numerous sensitive points, areas like the lips, anus, perineum, breast, head, ears etc. They are varying in each woman (man) Some of them have to be stimulated more often or together or after stimulating other areas. By mixing stimulation of all of them we can invent our own way of ecstasy. … Everyone is different so explore yourself, explore with your lover. Make good use foreplay and afterplay


Learn how to use them during love making and how to be focus on them.

10. Ecstasy

If we welcome and learn other methods in our lives it may help us expand the ecstasy of our love and elevate it to greater levels, thus in the end receive more power to experience greater love. One of the main thigs to master is control, by raising awareness one knows when they are close to the so-called point of no return – that means, the moment you feel that you are about to ejaculate use the technique of clenching the PC muscles. Basic method is clenching the PC muscle, deep breathing, energy transfer up and down through whole body or/and pressing specific points.

11.PC Muscles

PC muscles, (sometimes called “muscles of love” or “muscles of sex” ) are the muscles which prevents the flow of urine. By tightening these muscles we narrow the possibility of sperm ejaculation and also we send the sexual energy up. They make circulation better in the pelvic area and give you the possibility of achieving multiple orgasms as and when you would like them to happen. When a woman uses this technique it it is very pleasurable for her and partner during love making.

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12. Breathing

For the energy flow it is very helpful to breathe deeply, in general the deeper you breathe the healthier you will become, the calmer you will be and feeling of being more alive. With every internal breath we take we receive oxygen – the energy of life. With each exhalation we take we expel toxins from our system. The deeper we breath, the more energy we receive, the deeper we exhale- the more we purify our bodies. When we observe our breathing during sex, we will notice that it becomes shallow and fast the closer we are to orgasm. Through deep breathing we can calm our fear, pain and anger. In the same way we can slow down and avoid ejaculation.

13. Synchronising and moving energy up and down

In addition, breathing, synchronising this with the tightening of the PC muscle’s is very helpful to increase the energy flow. Before we learn to feel energy we have to imagine it, if we synchronise all of these methods with our partners we are sure to raise our awareness. Another technique which is recommended to learn is to place the tongue on the roof of your mouth, just behind our teeth. This will help improve the energy flow, it also helps when one has a feeling that they are close to the point of no return.


Transferring the energy to the sick parts of your body may help speed up the healing process. There is probably no better effective and more pleasurable medicine than that of love. As someone once said, “Sex can be a way to hell or a way to heaven” – you choose. In the same way sex can give you energy, health and youth when it is filled with love and when you learn to use this energy. On the other hand, by the frequent loss of semen we deprive ourselves of energy, we weaken our body, and we even speed up the processes of disease and ageing. As tantra is focused on spirituality and ecstasy, sexual tao is more focused on health.

15. Open communication

Very important in this regard is to be open, to not be afraid to communicate how one wants/needs to be touched, kissed and loved. If it will be easy for us to describe our expectations we will avoid misunderstandings, hurts therefore gain greater satisfaction, respect and understanding. Sexual fantasies and expectations are different and if both sides agree, no taboos, no religion, social pressures, etc. should interfere in it. Through expression we are encouraging our partners to do the same, most people feel happier when their beloved is open and communicative.

When making love not only are we naked – our soul lays bare, in that moment of intimacy it is very easy to be hurt by an unpleasant remark. Once one is hurt with severe criticism, one tends to emotionally shut down and remain afraid to re-open. Constructive criticism is the key here so that our beloved won’t be wounded. Example, note the difference between: “Why we’re always hurrying I’m not ready yet” from: “Your touch is so pleasant here, could You continue a little bit longer?”

Treat your woman as goddess and your man as god

The world would be a happier and more positive nurturing place if we could learn to love our neighbours seeing the divine in all people – especially in our loved ones. Treat them like godesses, gods, not only in our bed but during daily life. Deep breath, scream, laugh, and touch can help the energy flow, and at the same time could be a very exciting expression of our happiness, ecstasy, etc.. There is nothing wrong with love but only the absence of love is wrong. So do not be ashamed shouting while you make love, don’t be afraid that your neighbours will hear you.

16. Present Moment

It is very important that we learn with all of our mind to be in the present moment. Love is incredibly beautiful, more so when we are disciplined and commit to it. Try not to waste beautiful moments thinking about something else. It is important that our mind is as clear as possible, the cleaner is our own conscience, the more we give love the more we are able to experience love. Our so-called ‘Sins’ (those against our own principles of ethics), affect us at a greater degree, especially if they relate to our beloved. We will not be able to look honestly and deeply into eyes of our beloved if we have betrayed himher. Our love may never be able to spread its wings completely, so it is encouraged to live in truth and honesty. And here we are closing the circle that a happy life you may receive by living life in truth.


This workshop is only an introduction to the basic knowledge and the practise of love. I hope that this workshop encourages you to read more about tantra, sexual tao. I’m inviting you to follow our next workshops that are more practice based rather than theory. As with each discipline, the art of love needs patience, practice time and devotion. Don’t get disappointed when it doesn’t always work or takes time. Realise the painful emotions that can be released on the way of tantric love. Relax, You are heading in a positive direction and leaving behind those who are afraid to make mistakes…

It is worth putting your time and energy into it, love in all honesty is the most important experience for many of us. However, even small hints like “to first blow, then tickle, then lightly kiss, and then touch and lick at the end” can be very revealing, it is certain that perfecting these simple techniques our beloved will reciprocate. Its good to vary every love making session, don’t allow repetition to happen too often. Therefore, use your imagination which in itself may prove to be a treasure of ideas, if only we learn and dare to use it.

Good luck and lot of pleasure, energy and love!

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Tantric Love Activist Revolution
Twenty-first century. Time of great change but also the risks and concerns.
Can we survive? Would humanity will cope with the mess that has created mainly
during the last century? How far, how long, what disasters we have to experience that
people would make the breakthrough of their mentality? There is still hope that if we
act united in all possible ways, we can avoid destruction of our planet, extermination
of generations to come, global warming, water contamination, deforestation or other
consequences of our “civilized” life.
There is a power that gives the strength to the hope, gives faith that everything will
be fine. This power that’s love, what especially now we have to distribute in any
possible way and as much as we can. Of course, we should start with ourselves, our
beloved, then our children, first close and then further family, then all human beings,
animals, plants and entire planet. If we start to love properly, it will not be limited
just to ourselves, or eventually only to our family. Developed love does not stop just
at feelings for our partners, but on understanding that if we would like to be happy
we have to live altruistically. So do good to other people, animals, plants and
entire planet. Everything in the universe is interconnected. Our health is
increasingly dependent on the health of our planet. We can imagine that we letting in
negative energy in to our body by eating every piece of meat, what had to be paid not
only by animal suffering but also by the world hunger, climate change, deforestation,
poisoning soil,water etc.
We wouldn’t buy for a child happiness by purchasing cheap Chinese toys, produced
by other children from who’s childhood was taken away.
Giving for beloved heart-shaped chocolates will not pass energy of love if You was
aware that to produce it, children were abused at the cocoa plantation.
If we understand good in almost all religions and all philosophical systems they’re
teaching us love. Why, nevertheless, it is still too little of that feeling to save the
planet? Why so often still it is just selfish feeling limited only to ourselves ? Why
religions that suppose to spread love to often causes bloody wars? We could probably
write a book about it but here is not time and place for that. I would go straight to the
heart of the problem and the solution. To make our love mature and altruistic I’m
encouraging you to familiarize yourself with positive tantra, sexual tao, tantric
love which by the fact that would ascend us to higher levels of consciousness will
give us healthy, happy life for ourselves and our loved ones, and eventually will open
our hearts and eyes to the needs of our times. Regardless of religion, philosophical
system,will bring a feeling and power of love in everything what we do.
So why wait ? Start today. Save yourself and the rest. Give happiness to yourself
and others !
Happy life You get by doing good !

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This is one of our NOT ACTUAL posters